First, a disclaimer: there are a lot of people who work a lot harder than I do as a caregiver. In fact, most caregivers don't even realize they're caregivers. It's like that frog-in-boiling-water syndrome; you don't realize what's happened until well past tea time. (Okay, that was a terrible analogy, and perhaps even a mixed metaphor. Forgive me.) Read More
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Remaining Sane: Some Thoughts and Tips for Caregivers
January 14, 2013
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Jan 14, 2013 3:37 AM EST
Good advice. I like number 5. I've often had to tell myself to slow down and live in the moment.
- Dawn
Jan 14, 2013 6:15 AM EST
I live in fear that I will have to be the one who is cared for before I feel ready for that--and I am only in my 50's. MS has me walking like a drunken sailor most days, and falling is a very real worry. I have taken my turn through life as a caregiver, pill passer-outer, wheelchair pusher helper, plus working at the time with 4 kids at home. So I can sooooo sympathize. I like the pay it forward thought. I am sure you are a kind, loving, and thoughtful caregiver to those who need you, Linda. Sending love to you, Aunt Joni, and your precious Gracie.
- Jenny Beagle
Jan 14, 2013 12:26 PM EST
my favorite #6: Don't stop asking for help! Friends, family, social workers, therapists, and community members can all help carry the load. When you ask for help, have your calendar out and write the commitments in. Then be grateful to have friends and family.
- Anne Marie
Jan 14, 2013 6:11 PM EST
Today I found myself darning my mother's socks; it was a calming activity in an otherwise hectic day. My Mom is up north and does not know that I have these long, ivory-colored, wool socks of hers, and she will likely not remember that I fixed them up for her when I return them. And yet, it must matter to me somehow, that I try to do what she would have wanted if she could have asked me herself.
- Lori